*This post is written by Heather, from her point of view as a Gestational Carrier
My wife and I started talking about the idea of carrying Chrissy and Lee’s baby as soon as we found out they were going to need a surrogate. That was probably right before we became pregnant with our son. I even said something about it to Chrissy when I was about 3 months pregnant at a friend’s birthday party. I’m also sure many people said in passing to Chrissy that they would love to carry for her, “but….”so I didn’t blame her if she didn’t think much of it.
When I first started looking online to read about surrogacy, I read a few places that asked “Do you love being pregnant, but are done having your own children?” Yeah, that wasn’t exactly me. My pregnancy with our son was good, but I didn’t “love” being pregnant. I also wasn’t the little girl who always just knew I would have no problem getting pregnant. In fact, during my college years I had this nagging thought in the back of my head that I would have problems getting pregnant. There was nothing going on with me to make me think this, but I just always worried. Getting pregnant with our son was pretty easy, as it turns out, and worked the second time we did an IUI.
I have now been pumping for 6 weeks! I have pumped over 170 times (averaging 7 pumps per 24 hours) and now have a "freezer stash" of over 150 ounces of milk!!! WE ended up buying this deep freezer!
I am now getting around 1.5 - 2oz per pump. My Lactation Consultant said if I'm at 2oz per pump by the time he's here I have a great chance at being able to exclusively breastfeed him (without having to supplement with formula). So I have done everything I can to make sure I pump as often as possible, and eat as healthy as possible to make sure I can get enough milk every day.
8/20/15- After strategically avoiding all baby showers at my work for the past 8 years....a la "I'll cover the front desk!...so I can avoid crying in front of my coworkers....", it was time for my own. I pleaded with the planner to have it not be a surprise and to not have any cheesy games. Luckily Lee was able to attend and without any prompting the planners picked the PERFECT theme! They had no idea we were planning those colors and safari as our nursery theme...or that giraffes are my favorite!
I played a slide show of pictures from our journey thus far and people asked a bunch of questions. And then everyone wrote down their best parenting advice on cards. I was amazed at the generosity of my coworkers, we were showered with gifts, gift cards and cash! It was unexpected. Everyone could tell how excited we are to finally become parents!
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Mothers with MRKH
Our Gender Reveal
2000- Chrissy dx w/ MRKH
2002- Chrissy & Lee meet
2007- Chrissy & Lee Marry
2009- Chrissy 'hysterectomy'
2013- Awarded Cade Grant
7/3/14- IVF egg retrieval (5)
1/18/15- Embryo Transfer (1)
9/29/15 - Bram born!