Lee and I auditioned last week for a "surrogacy docu-series." We really liked the casting agent and we were excited about the possible adventure, we're always up for a good adventure, and with our journey to parenthood already "strange" why not thrown in a camera or two.
The Skype audition seemed to go well, but then yesterday the casting agent called me and said the producers wanted to change the direction of the show and they were hoping we would be open to what she called a "social experiment" or more exactly:
She wanted me to pretend to be pregnant at the same time our surrogate is, and hide the fact we are using a surrogate to have children from our family and friends…..
After the test run of Clomid, and paying the required deposit, we ran full steam ahead with IVF. I wanted to make extra sure our child would be Jewish so I bought our medication from Israel ;-) and I started the required injections of medication on June 15th. After a hilarious first injection (video will be posted eventually, pretty much anything that could have gone wrong went wrong, but we laughed through it all) the rest were smooth sailing and really didn't hurt as much as I thought.
Throughout the weeks that followed I had to do the very time sensitive injections in various places including the in-laws house, a bathroom stall at Nationals Baseball Stadium (picture to the left!) and a hotel in Philadelphia!
While we are just starting out on our unique journey to become parents, we have already been asked/told some mindboggling things. And while I know surrogacy isn’t all that common, and what most people know are from celebrities and the news media, I was surprised by some of the comments and questions.
I have had so many people ask me so many questions about our journey, about infertility and about gestational surrogacy… some of them stop themselves and say “Am I being too personal? If I am, just tell me.” And if you’ve ever said this to me, you’re probably right now thinking, “Crap, she’s writing this because of me. I offended her.” Just know that you didn't and this post is not directed at any person or situation in particular. With the help of fellow amazing Intended Mothers I have compiled a list to help the general public because of the many questions we'’ve been asked, the many comments I’ve heard shared on the surrogacy pages I follow.
Bram's Birth Story
Ways to Save Money
Things not to say to IPs
Tips for newly diagnosed
Mothers with MRKH
Our Gender Reveal
2000- Chrissy dx w/ MRKH
2002- Chrissy & Lee meet
2007- Chrissy & Lee Marry
2009- Chrissy 'hysterectomy'
2013- Awarded Cade Grant
7/3/14- IVF egg retrieval (5)
1/18/15- Embryo Transfer (1)
9/29/15 - Bram born!