Most teenagers are not thinking of the future. Most are day dreaming about Friday night football games, the newest fashion trends, cars, and prom.
At 17, that all changed for me.
It was then I had my first gynecologist appointment. And as the doctor began to push around on my stomach, I just knew something was wrong. (I was too naive to ask questions, and they didn't offer any words of encouragement.) I was immediately sent for an ultrasound. I laid clueless as the first...second... and then a third person came into the room.
It was then they told me...there tumor was blocking much of their view.
After biopsy of the cells came back abnormal, I was sent to surgery to have the tumor removed. Doctors were unsure if the tumor was affecting my ovaries, uterus, or both.
I remember praying and praying for it to only be effecting one ovary. I was so terrified of having a hysterectomy and not being able to have children, (even at a young age I knew I wanted to be a mother one day). I remember waking up for surgery and first asking for my parents and second “what did they have to take?" I was devastated when my mom took my hand and told me they had to remove my uterus. I knew I would never be able to carry a child.
Fast forward ten years. I am now happily married (he has always been very supportive). Four years into our marriage the urge to become a mother over took me. Cody and I knew we would never be able to afford surrogacy (which has a price tag of $80,000-$120,000). But that’s when our (miracle) surrogate came forward. Cody’s mother offered to carry our baby...(my mother in law!!!!) although she had joked about if for several years (we never took her seriously until then. ) I definitely won the jack pot in the mother in law category.
We had a heartbreaking failed transfer early in 2017, but we will be transferring again 4/27/2017 (which is during NIAW, hopefully that's good luck!).
I grew up thinking this would never be a possibility for me. We have made it this far and I am not giving up now. Some days I wonder why God has placed us on this path, but I must be still and know that he has me exactly where he needs me to be.
All of our journeys are different; but we are in this together. 1:8 of us struggle with infertility and many of us struggle silently. I stayed silent for many years because I felt, for a long time, that being infertile made me less of a “woman.” Being infertile does not make us any less valuable and I have finally overcome that feeling. Infertility is HELL, but we will be stronger from it.
If you would like to keep up with our progress you can visit our blog at facebook.com/creatingbabyjones
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Our Gender Reveal
2000- Chrissy dx w/ MRKH
2002- Chrissy & Lee meet
2007- Chrissy & Lee Marry
2009- Chrissy 'hysterectomy'
2013- Awarded Cade Grant
7/3/14- IVF egg retrieval (5)
1/18/15- Embryo Transfer (1)
9/29/15 - Bram born!