I’m sure you’re all saying "what?!?!?! I didn't even know you found a carrier?!?!?"
Well, we decided to keep our journey a complete secret up to this point (our parents didn't even know until last week!) for a few reasons. But mainly because this entire process is just so.... public. It’s not the private romantic story most parents have of how their child was conceived. With so many doctors, professionals, and participants involved we wanted to keep what little shred of privacy and “sacredness” we could in such a public process.
Now that we are comfortably 8 weeks pregnant we wanted to share our news with the world!!!
This is mainly aimed towards those diagnosed with MRKH, but it can be for anyone that is diagnosed with infertility early in your life, i.e. before you start to try to have children naturally.
I was diagnosed with MRKH at 14… so I knew I would need to take an alternative path to becoming a parent way before I was ready to become one….but I was completely naïve about the cost and the process. Initially when you receive your diagnoses, you fear “I’ll never be a mother” and that can be depressing and isolating. Knowing you have options, and at least vaguely what the process looks like seems to help most girls when they’re first diagnosed. Having a bit of knowledge can also help educate and calm a new significant other that may have a hard time coping with the idea of possibly not having kids.
Here is a list of things “I” wish I knew when I were younger about this journey to become a mother. (compiled with the help of many ladies). If you even have an inkling that you might want to be a parent one day, these are our tips, and if you decide you don’t, then hey you might have a good chunk of change for an amazing vacation!
And yes most of these are aimed towards Surrogacy, just because that is the path I chose and have subsequently become an “expert” in, but most also apply to adoption.
Bram's Birth Story
Ways to Save Money
Things not to say to IPs
Tips for newly diagnosed
Mothers with MRKH
Our Gender Reveal
2000- Chrissy dx w/ MRKH
2002- Chrissy & Lee meet
2007- Chrissy & Lee Marry
2009- Chrissy 'hysterectomy'
2013- Awarded Cade Grant
7/3/14- IVF egg retrieval (5)
1/18/15- Embryo Transfer (1)
9/29/15 - Bram born!