Friday afternoon as I was leaving work I saw an article on Facebook announcing that a baby boy was born (over a month ago!) from one of the 9 Swedish women who received uterus transplants in 2012….how amazing right??? Well I am ashamed to admit the first emotion that I felt was jealousy… pure and utter green with envy type jealously. And then I felt horrible for feeling that way. Yes I was ecstatically happy for that mother, and yes of course I was beyond thrilled for the future MRKH Warriors that could potentially benefit from this amazing scientific accomplishment. But the bratty teenage girl inside of me was whining “Why not MEEE????”
I was in a pretty spectacularly crappy mood the rest of the evening, and was then I was jealous of how most of the other Warriors were so easily happy and jealousy free of the news. One lovely Warrior even baked a cake to celebrate! WTF? How can she be so unselfishly happy about this? I felt like I was dying inside. I knew there was no chance I could ever take advantage of this. By the time it came to the US I would be too old, and my other health issues would certainly disqualify me. I know I was being stupid, but sometimes you don’t have control over what you feel, and most of the time you have no idea why you feel the way you do.
Saturday I woke up and decided to get over myself. I was being stupid and selfish and I should be happy for this child, for this mother and for the future women who could benefit from this. Then I saw a post from the same lovely MRKHer that baked the cake, saying she wanted to make a video of Warriors holding up a sign welcoming Baby Vincent into the world and showing him what his birth meant to us. I thought it would be the perfect way to show that I really do care and love this child I will never meet, and that I am beyond happy for what this means.
So I took a picture and am so excited to be part of this gift, Vincent's mother even responded to the video! "I would like to give my biggest thanks you from my heart to you and all the girls sharing our biggest joy."
I am also trying to focus on the options that I do currently have. I have been lucky enough to have the opportunity to go through IVF and we currently have 5 frosties waiting for us. I am certain we will find a lovely lady to carry one of them soon and we will be parents before we know it! <3 focus on the positive right?
Even more amazing news!! Two more of the transplant recipients are also pregnant, meaning 2 more Warrior babies any day now!! Read article.
Here is the medical release if you want to read the technical jargon.
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2000- Chrissy dx w/ MRKH
2002- Chrissy & Lee meet
2007- Chrissy & Lee Marry
2009- Chrissy 'hysterectomy'
2013- Awarded Cade Grant
7/3/14- IVF egg retrieval (5)
1/18/15- Embryo Transfer (1)
9/29/15 - Bram born!