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Surrogacy 101: An Online Workshop

3/20/2017

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If you're just starting your surrogacy research there is a great new tool that will help you navigate the process. I worked with All Things Surrogacy (you'll notice a lot of the images are from my own journey) to develop a "Surrogacy 101 Online Workshop" The cost is $49.99 which is a great price for the wealth of knowledge you will gain. I do get a referral bonus (planning to donate anything I receive), but even if I didn't I would still suggest it because it's just that good. Janae the founder of ATS went into great details in all areas of surrogacy, and you can watch just whats important to you and skip others, or watch it all.

​Here are the units that will be discussed:



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Working Mom... 1 year later

12/21/2016

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​Today marks one year since I returned to work from maternity leave. I would love to tell expectant or new moms that it gets easier… and it does…then it gets harder… it comes in waves actually. Some days I’m excited to get to work and the day flies by, some days I’m dragging my feet not wanting to leave my little guy. I was very lucky to get 11 weeks of (paid) maternity leave, and then took 6 more weeks to work back up to full time. Even now I have a flexible schedule and understanding employer that allows me to work from home on Fridays, and work from home or take off time when needed, like when he was extremely sick with RSV and then an ear infection all last week. Two of my supervisors are working Moms and have been such great mentors in this journey. They are always there to provide advice, commiserate, or support when needed. They never question if I say I’m running late, or need to leave early, and trust that I am getting my job done and can always be reached if needed. I recently had the opportunity to hire a new mom that was returning to the workforce and I am making sure I provide her with the same support and understanding environment that I have.

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One Year Later- from Our Carrier's Point of View

10/13/2016

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After Bram was born and all the checking up on afterbirth stuff was done, we were moved to separate rooms, but right next to each other. I was so excited to get some rest (after I got something to eat!). I waited patiently for Stephanie to bring our son Liam to visit. I thought it would be so nice to get some sleep! After my mom, Stephanie and Liam went home, I realized I didn’t actually want to be alone and had myself a nice little 5-minute crying session. I also forgot how often I would be checked on at night!


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It's been one year!!!

10/6/2016

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I can't believe its been a year since our miracle baby was born. He's a full on toddler now which comes with its challenges and moments of fun and excitement.  But OMG my baby is one!!! Cue the waterworks…. “They” say kids grow up fast and boy oh boy are they right!  This summer has been a blast, so many activities and milestones.  I’ll try to summarize some for you.


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Podcasts! Infertility & Breastfeeding

6/29/2016

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I've recently been featured on two amazing Podcasts. Check them out!
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Breastfeeding Outside the Box- Breastfeeding via Surrogacy


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Beat Infertility- MRKH & Surrogacy: Chrissy’s Story

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6 Months old & MRKH Day!

4/28/2016

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Bram is 6 months old! Time is seriously flying by! I've been back at work since late December and while it hasn't gotten any easier being away from him, I think I am able to handle it a little better. The past month he has really become such a little personality! He can sit up on his own, he constantly laughs. Loves being tickled and scared. And is starting his journey into real food! Lee is loving making foods for him and watching his expression the first time he tries something new. Seeing Lee make the airplane noises and feeding Bram with a spoon makes me emotional and so much more in love with him each time.


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"4th Trimester" aka life as new parents

12/28/2015

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The past 3 months have been a whirlwind. We FINALLY got our miracle baby. There is a saying that the first 3 months are "The Longest Shortest Time." Meaning in the moment it seems like it will go on forever... the crying, the diapers, the lack of sleep...then in an instant its over and it seems like it was the shortest time, blink and you missed it. Oh how true this is.

We were all discharged about 30 hours after Bram was born, which may seem early, but since he had no difficulties after delivery we were eager to get him home.  We kept the dogs at the boarding kennel for a few days so we could get acclimated to our new life before we introduced them. That night Lee offered to take the first night shift since we had all been up for nearly 2 days at this point with very little rest, and would wake me when Bram needed to nurse.... well being the amazing father and husband he is, he decided not to wake me up and used some of the extra milk I had pumped to feed him, I got 6 hours of uninterrupted...and much needed sleep that night. And to boot I woke to the delicious smell of banana bread baking!


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Bram's Birth Story

10/12/2015

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On September 29, 2015 at 8:43am our son Bram Hopewell​ was born into this world.  Our lives changed in an instant, it was love at first sight and the beginning of a new journey in our life. 

On the morning of the 28th we had our 39 week midwife appointment. When they checked her and she was 2-3cm dilated. Heather requested the midwife “sweep her membranes” to help possibly induce labor as we were all a bit concerned with his estimated large weight causing a difficult labor if she stayed pregnant much longer. Well it worked! Her contractions began around 2:00pm that day. By 8:00pm she was taking them seriously and by 9:00pm we were on the road to her house (its an hour long drive... but somehow Lee made it there in the longest 40 minutes ever). We waited for Heather's Mom to arrive to watch their son before heading out and we arrived at the hospital at 11:11pm.


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Not the Mama - from our Carrier's point of view

9/11/2015

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*This post is written by Heather, from her point of view as a Gestational Carrier
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My wife and I started talking about the idea of carrying Chrissy and Lee’s baby as soon as we found out they were going to need a surrogate. That was probably right before we became pregnant with our son. I even said something about it to Chrissy when I was about 3 months pregnant at a friend’s birthday party. I’m also sure many people said in passing to Chrissy that they would love to carry for her, “but….”so I didn’t blame her if she didn’t think much of it.

 When I first started looking online to read about surrogacy, I read a few places that asked “Do you love being pregnant, but are done having your own children?” Yeah, that wasn’t exactly me. My pregnancy with our son was good, but I didn’t “love” being pregnant. I also wasn’t the little girl who always just knew I would have no problem getting pregnant. In fact, during my college years I had this nagging thought in the back of my head that I would have problems getting pregnant. There was nothing going on with me to make me think this, but I just always worried. Getting pregnant with our son was pretty easy, as it turns out, and worked the second time we did an IUI.


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Inducing Lactation Update!

9/11/2015

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I have now been pumping for 6 weeks! I have pumped over 170 times (averaging 7 pumps per 24 hours) and now have a "freezer stash" of over 150 ounces of milk!!! WE ended up buying this deep freezer!
I am now getting around 1.5 - 2oz per pump. My Lactation Consultant said if I'm at 2oz per pump by the time he's here I have a great chance at being able to exclusively breastfeed him (without having to supplement with formula). So I have done everything I can to make sure I pump as often as possible, and eat as healthy as possible to make sure I can get enough milk every day.


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35 Weeks Gestation & 2nd Growth Scan

9/2/2015

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8/20/15- After strategically avoiding all baby showers at my work for the past 8 years....a la "I'll cover the front desk!...so I can avoid crying in front of my coworkers....", it was time for my own. I pleaded with the planner to have it not be a surprise and to not have any cheesy games.  Luckily Lee was able to attend and without any prompting the planners picked the PERFECT theme! They had no idea we were planning those colors and safari as our nursery theme...or that giraffes are my favorite!
I played a slide show of pictures from our journey thus far and people asked a bunch of questions. And then everyone wrote down their best parenting advice on cards. I was amazed at the generosity of my coworkers, we were showered with gifts, gift cards and cash! It was unexpected. Everyone could tell how excited we are to finally become parents! 


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32 Weeks Gestation & 1st Growth Scan

8/18/2015

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We had an ultrasound at 32 weeks gestation to measure growth and confirm baby is in head down position. As expected he did not want to cooperate and was constantly kicking and punching the sonographer and the probe. But they were able to measure everything...and well... he's a big boy! He was measuring around 36 weeks in size and about 5lbs!! and although ultrasound is notoriously inaccurate, he is going to at least be a big boy.

Due to the size they are worried about gestational diabetes (she already passed her glucose test once) but they are requiring a second test, and weekly monitoring to look at the placenta and fluid level. The first one was this week and all was well! We have another growth scan at 35 weeks then weekly midwife appointments!


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Inducing Lactation & World Breastfeeding Week

8/3/2015

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You might be saying "Inducing wha???" and I can understand your confusion. I had never known this was possible until a few years ago either. 

"Inducing lactation refers to the process of making milk without pregnancy and birth." 



It has been going on since the beginning of time... and yes even men can do it.... if they really wanted to! Women do it for a multitude of reason including having children through adoption, surrogacy and non-gestational mothers (lesbian couples).

This week is World Breastfeeding Week, what perfect timing to start my "breastfeeding" journey and share my journey with everyone!

And let me just add a disclaimer here... this post will be about boobs, milk coming out of boobs and other personal stuff, so just navigate away if you're not comfortable with that sort of stuff.


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30 Weeks Gestation & Hospital Tour

7/28/2015

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We had our Hospital Tour this weekend. Heather, Stephanie and Liam came along, and there was one other couple there as well. The hospital is very nice, the labor rooms are insanely huge and include a whirlpool tub and yoga balls and all sorts of other tools to promote labor.
I asked the nurse that was leading the tour many surrogacy specific questions and she suggested I call a social worker later this week as she didn't have answers for me. Since they are so flexible in many other aspects I'm hoping they are understanding and flexible in our situation as well.


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28 Weeks Gestation & 30th Birthday Baby Shower!

7/14/2015

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We're in the 3rd trimester! Some resources say the 27th week starts it, and others say the 28th week... either way, we're in the final stretch now!!!
Heather took her 1 hour glucose screening test and passed perfectly!
We also scheduled our next and final ultrasound (a "growth scan") for week 32. We were hoping not to have any more scans but the Midwife highly suggested one, so we trust her.


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26 Weeks Gestation & Baby Care Class

6/30/2015

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My Mom and Stepdad come to town last week from Florida, so I invited them and Heather, Stephanie and Liam over for dinner. It was a fantastic time. Telling of lots of childhood stories and laughs all around.

My mom showered Heather and her family with love and continued to express how thankful she was Heather was doing this for us.


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24 Weeks Gestation & Cade Race for the Family

6/16/2015

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We got to feel him move!! We went over to Heather and Stephanie's for one of our regular dinner nights and Heather was determined for me to feel him move. She had been feeling him move around for about a week now and didn't want anyone else (even her wife!) to feel him until I could (how sweet!!!). So after dinner we sat on the couch and I read him a bedtime story. I honestly never realized before how morbid and down right creepy traditional bedtime stories and nursery rhymes are though! I read part of one about The Dog with No Voice, and another about a Squirrel and I then felt him kick (or punch) and then also a limb or something slide across the whole front of her belly. I was glowing, completely amazed. I quickly grabbed Lee's hand and he also got to feel some movement!


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20 Weeks Gestation, Advocacy Day & MRKH meet up

5/22/2015

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On Wednesday we had our 20 week "Anatomy Scan" which is basically a very thorough ultrasound where they look at all of the baby's various structures and organs. At first the little bugger was not being cooperative and wouldn't unfold from his comfy position for the tech to get many good pictures. Then the tech started bouncing/pushing the probe deeper into Heather's stomach to try to wake him up or make him move and Lee and I both grimaced, but Heather assured us it didn't hurt and the tech kept telling us it was fine, the baby is well insulated in there.



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15-19 Weeks Gestation & Babymoon Cruise!

5/12/2015

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Last week we went on our Babymoon Cruise...which in actuality we didn't know that's what it would be when we booked it last May, before we even did our IVF egg retrieval. By that time Heather had already offered to be our surrogate and we were planning our transfer for January (we KNEW we would have good embryos). So we planned this thinking, either we would try three transfers between January - May, and if it didn't work then this would be our regrouping/reconnecting time together to figure out our next steps. And if all went well it would be our Babymoon..... Thank goodness everything worked out!


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14 Weeks Gestation & Gender Reveal

4/7/2015

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We received the NIPT Harmony test results last week. Chromosomal results showed a less than 1 in 10,000 risk, meaning our baby is unlikely to have down syndrome, trisomy 13, or 18. So a healthy baby!! yay! 

And the test was able to determine the gender!! 


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12 Weeks Gestation & Introducing our Carrier

3/24/2015

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We had our Nuchal Translucency screening and genetic counseling today. Lots of big words and science stuff, but basically we had an ultrasound that measured the fluid at the base of the neck of the baby to see if it was a marker for Down Syndrome. We also did some blood work (NIPT Harmony test) to look for other chromosomal issues and to determine the gender. We should have those results in 2 weeks. We're assuming it will all come back normal and healthy.




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10 Weeks Gestation & First Midwife Appointment

3/10/2015

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We had our first Midwife appointment since being “cleared” from the Reproductive Endocrinologist (IVF doctor) at 7 weeks.  The Midwife was very kind, gentle and down to earth. She said she does have a few surrogacy situations a year so it is familiar, but that each case is different with regards to information sharing and relationships, etc. There were a few times where when she asked a questions I would respond…when she was clearly asking our Carrier… I guess I’m just used to always being the patient… I think it’s just something I’ll have to get used to! She did do her best to include us in the questioning and invited us to take a new parent class they have and a breastfeeding class since I plan to induce lactation, so I can breastfeed our child.    


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We're having a baby!!!

2/24/2015

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I’m sure you’re all saying "what?!?!?!  I didn't even know you found a carrier?!?!?"

Well, we decided to keep our journey a complete secret up to this point (our parents didn't even know until last week!) for a few reasons. But mainly because this entire process is just so.... public. It’s not the private romantic story most parents have of how their child was conceived. With so many doctors, professionals, and participants involved we wanted to keep what little shred of privacy and “sacredness” we could in such a public process.
Now that we are comfortably 8 weeks pregnant we wanted to share our news with the world!!!


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Tips for newly MRKH diagnosed and your future parenting path

2/18/2015

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This is mainly aimed towards those diagnosed with MRKH, but it can be for anyone that is diagnosed with infertility early in your life, i.e. before you start to try to have children naturally.

I was diagnosed with MRKH at 14… so I knew I would need to take an alternative path to becoming a parent way before I was ready to become one….but I was completely naïve about the cost and the process.   Initially when you receive your diagnoses, you fear “I’ll never be a mother” and that can be depressing and isolating. Knowing you have options, and at least vaguely what the process looks like seems to help most girls when they’re first diagnosed. Having a bit of knowledge can also help educate and calm a new significant other that may have a hard time coping with the idea of possibly not having kids.

Here is a list of things “I” wish I knew when I were younger about this journey to become a mother. (compiled with the help of many ladies).  If you even have an inkling that you might want to be a parent one day, these are our tips, and if you decide you don’t, then hey you might have a good chunk of change for an amazing vacation!

And yes most of these are aimed towards Surrogacy, just because that is the path I chose and have subsequently become an “expert” in, but most also apply to adoption.
 

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Beautiful You MRKH Foundation Advisory Board

1/20/2015

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Last year I was asked to join the Beautiful You MRKH Foundation’s Advisory Board. I was so excited, and honored...and I felt like a grown up!!!

Well last night we had our first official meeting via video conference, the 9 of us (8 MRKH Warriors and 1 very dedicated Mom of an MRKH Warrior) all brainstormed for an hour on how to raise funds for various events/grants/ideas for the foundation. It was interesting to hear all the ideas since we are all in different stages and ages in our life and everyone had great ideas.

FYI I set up a separate Alias Facebook Account for my MRKH work, and I will only be friending follow MRKHers and supporters there. Its also a way to keep some level of privacy both ways.

I can’t wait to see what we are able to accomplish this year. I know 2015 is going to be amazing!!!


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