This past year I started focusing on myself, what makes me happy as a person, what “re-energizes” me or gives me energy. It's not that I wanted "the old me" back... Being a mom is part of my identity now, but I needed to figure out what else I wanted to be part of me. Lee has always been amazingly supportive of all of my "crazy ideas" and has really embraced my desire to become more Minimalist. In addition to making our home, our family our marriage happier and healthier I wanted to find things to "fill my cup." While I love my job and my employer, I've started feeling like I wanted more... more meaning, more purpose, more healing. I've always found that helping others was a great way for me to heal myself.
I left that conference floating on clouds. The room was so energizing, I felt at home, comfortable, confident and like I had a purpose. It was then the spark was lit, I knew I enjoyed breastfeeding, and advocating and supporting all things around it, but it was then I decided I wanted to be more involved. I took time to think about what that meant, what I could handle, what I was willing to do.
Afterwards I was chatting with one of the attendees and she asked "so when are you going to become a La Leche League Leader?" like it was an obvious question....and I didn't know how to respond.... am I good enough to do that? Do I have the time to do that? Would they want me to be a leader??
Shortly after that day I decided I would look into what exactly was needed to become a La Leche League Leader and what it would mean. After much thought and deep conversations, In June I started the official process which although of course had some breastfeeding education involved, it was far more about properly facilitating meetings, providing emotional support and guidance and knowing when to have restraint in situations, all things thankfully my life in the corporate management world had already prepared me for.
After four months of studying, meeting with my mentor and completing all the steps required, I am officially an Accredited La Leche League leader. I have a smile on my face as I write this. :-) Although LLL is becoming more an more inclusive, as a working mom, a non-birthing mom, and a "had to supplement" mom this is a huge accomplishment, and I hope to use it as a platform of Hope for others.
Achieving this also ensures I will be able to continue with my passion long after Bram stops nursing, which is something I know I will grieve about, but am happy I will still be connected to this amazing community for life now. As luck (or fate) would have it te first Mother I supported was an adoptive mom that induced lactation…how serendipitous.
Before Bram I was very active in the infertility blogging community. I had a very popular personal blog that focused on ways we were able to afford the surrogacy process. After Bram I was struggling with how to balance that part of my life. I was still an an infertile, but also now a Mom…which are generally two very different target audiences. So after trial and error and much thought, I decided to separate the websites. I continue to blog at www.ChrissyandLee.com but it focuses on our life AFTER infertility, especially our traveling adventures and Inducing Lactation.
The e-book is launching this Monday October 23rd. and I am SUPER excited (and nervous!) about this next endeavor. It feels like a big party I planned, and I'm waiting and hoping people show up to it and have fun!
I've also been active with a variety of non-profits including being on the Advisory Council for the Beautiful You MRKH Foundation, and the Application Review Committee for the Tininia Q. Cade Foundation. Both have always been supportive to us, and I'm happy to contribute in any way I can.
Now that I feel like I finally have a good gripe on life (most days), I think this year will be a year of purpose, new experiences and finding balance (if there is such a thing). We're going to start getting out there a bit more soon, especially as a family of three, which is something we are focusing more and more on. We'll take a slow, so don't take it personal if we turn down your invitation, but don't forget about us either! Lots of love! - Chrissy
Now that our triangle family is complete, follow along as we live our "life after infertility." Our travels, our joys, our laughter & our sorrows of parenting.
Chrissy is a...
full time corporate world working somewhat crunchy mom, a loving wife, an MRKH Warrior, Infertility Advocate, support group leader & a bad ass breastfeeder. In her fleeting spare time she enjoys hiking, traveling, walking her pooch, sewing and watching funny or sappy TV shows.